sissy fist saved my life
and by support mentally ill people who refuse to be medicated, i mean all mentally ill people who refuse to be medicated
not just the ones who refuse their medication because they’ve been misdiagnosed
not just the ones who refuse because of awful side effects
i mean the…
I read this incredible article about having sex with trans women, and there’s also a pretty comprehensive zine called Fucking Trans Women that I would recommend though I have only skimmed it. After seeing both of these exhaustive resources on how to gender a trans woman’s body and how to have sex with her, I began thinking of how people already only value us for sex. It’s definitely important to have great affirming sex and less awkward or awful moments, and I want to push this conversation forward about loving trans women beyond sex.
It’s within my experience, and the experience of at least a dozen trans women of color that I know, that we are the first to be disposed of in intimate relationships. By “dispose,” I mean when life gets hectic for our partner(s), we are the ones who take the least priority and are the first “stressor” to be cut off. This is definitely an acceptable thing to do when someone is genuinely having their life fall apart and cannot maintain a relationship, so I am not advocating that every person stay in a relationship with a trans woman. I’m simply noting a theme that has been true for me and many trans women I’ve talked to about intimate relationships.