twas then | is now...

He gets me outa bed with his cuteness

He gets me outa bed with his cuteness

the list

littleyell:

literal-garbage:

tobycelery:

milkwurm:

thisistheband:

Ok here is the list of girls/non binary people making music on the new blog ! I’m still adding stuff and working on formatting but I have some stuff I gotta get done today besides this :^)

reblog/follow etc I’ll be posting stuff related to the bands I put up & such

also frick that ugly avatar icon thing

wooooooooooo

this is wonderful and very important and also i’m on it?? v cool v honored

all of my favorite bands/people are on this list and then… i am on this list…. and i just…. :’~)

so much good

untitled, by Dearth

ksrrkpirg:

intense and powerful lyrics, perfect recording quality, crushing wave elemental bass and drums 

first hair cut in well over a year.

first hair cut in well over a year.

Enormous dork

Enormous dork

Is It A Choice? Does It Matter?

tobitastic:

I’ve been seeing a lot of discussion flaring up about whether or not being trans is a choice. It frustrates me because I don’t see why it should matter and it often serves only to divide us and frame our arguments from a weaker position. 

The more we push the logic: not choice = deserve rights, the more our rights will be dependent on proving it is not a choice. It’s already been influencing court decisions quite a bit, like the non-discrimination case where a black woman was fired for wearing her hair in a traditionally black style (partially influenced by biological hair type as well as culture) but the judge said that was okay because hair style was a choice and not about her skin color. Or the case where a woman was fired for not wearing makeup even though men were not required to and the judge said that was okay because wearing makeup was a choice.

Anti-discrimination laws were never originally based on this principal - for example, what religion you are is clearly a choice but still religious discrimination is against the law. I’m concerned that pushing our rhetoric in this direction may lead to more and more narrow court decisions. Like what if a judge later decides you can’t be fired for “being trans” because it’s not a choice, but it’s okay to fire someone for choosing to take hormones? Regardless of whether it’s actually a choice, I avoid using the argument or rhetoric that it not being a choice is the reason why we deserve rights, because I want to guarantee our rights even in cases where it’s about something that clearly is a choice.

The issue of choice is rather semantically and often interpreted in different ways. Try for a moment applying it to any other issues. For example, I’m a writer and I grew up in a household that encouraged writing with a mom who wrote professionally. Is being a writer a choice? I also love brussel sprouts even though my partner hates the taste. When I was a kid I thought I didn’t like them, but once I had them cooked with butter it was amazing. Is my liking of brussel sprouts a choice? Could I stop liking them if I wanted? What does that even mean?

As a result, saying that being trans is or is not a choice might mean different things to different people. Being trans is not a binary yes-or-no question, so which part are we talking about. If someone feels just as comfortable physically transitioning and taking on a binary gender role as they would expressing a non-binary gender while on a low-dose of hormones and not changing their documentation, is that what they mean by choice?  If someone knows that ‘man’ is not a gender they will be okay with but is trying to decide if they want to be ‘woman’ or ‘dyke’ or non-binary’ or ‘butch’ or decide if they want ‘they’ pronouns or ‘she’ pronouns or decide if they want to wear skirts and dresses or if that’s not a part of the style they are going for, or any other of the minutia details of transition that some people go with and others don’t — which of those elements are we talking about when we argue it’s a choice or not. Are we even all arguing about the same thing?

Two trans folks could have the exact same experience around trans status, yet one person describe it as a choice and one person as not a choice just because they have different understandings of what it means to be a choice. Is it really all that important to tell the first person that they are wrong? Arguing over cause is a never ending fight because we don’t have solid proof. And what if there’s no one cause but 20 or 30 different causes that aren’t necessarily all present in everyone. Choice could be one of those factors for some and not for others just as much as uteral hormone baths or specific suspected “trans genes” might not be present for someone yet they could still be trans.

Bottom line, it shouldn’t matter. We deserve rights regardless of what ‘caused’ us to be this way. I think the focus on cause is in itself a part of the oppression we face. It marks us as the abnormal that needs to be explained. It’s rare to hear an argument about whether or not being cis is a choice, and cis people still get respect and rights regardless of what caused them to be cis. I think it’s a much stronger argument to claim that we deserve legal rights and protections from discrimination simply because discrimination against us exists and should be stopped. Let us offer the moral value that discrimination against any marginalized population is wrong and should be opposed on that basis alone. Let us offer the moral value that being trans can be just as beneficial and positive an experience as being cis if only we could bring an end to the oppression we face. I for one, would not choose to be cis if presented with the possibility. I don’t want my rights to be tied to pity and sympathy that I happened to be born into a tragic experience, I want it to be based on the basic respect and human dignity that we all inherently deserve.

today i could barely walk so i laid in bed and drank, getting old is a sick joke

happy 4th birthday alice <3

fuckyeahcutetranschicks:

I love FYCTC! this photo is from last autumn. kind of terrified of identifying as a “dyke” because of cis lesbian &amp; trans dude eye rolls but fuck haters. it feels right.
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[An upper body black and white shot of a girl with straight dark hair and wearing a long sleeve shirt under a vest, leaning up against a roadsign. The roadsign says Little Dyke Rd and has an arrow pointing right. Behind her is a road and a field with farm animals.]

you are a mischievous lil dyke with a face i wana squish into a pie when you smile like that girl. fuck the haters

fuckyeahcutetranschicks:

I love FYCTC! this photo is from last autumn.
kind of terrified of identifying as a “dyke” because of cis lesbian & trans dude eye rolls but fuck haters. it feels right.

[Submitted by email]

[An upper body black and white shot of a girl with straight dark hair and wearing a long sleeve shirt under a vest, leaning up against a roadsign. The roadsign says Little Dyke Rd and has an arrow pointing right. Behind her is a road and a field with farm animals.]

you are a mischievous lil dyke with a face i wana squish into a pie when you smile like that girl. fuck the haters